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Ain't Done Livin'

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In December 2023, a few months after the sudden death of her husband, Abbye booked an AirBNB by herself before the Christmas holidays. She wanted to be alone. She wanted to revisit the places she'd first loved him. She Read more

In December 2023, a few months after the sudden death of her husband, Abbye booked an AirBNB by herself before the Christmas holidays. She wanted to be alone. She wanted to revisit the places she'd first loved him. She wanted to wrap her mind around where'd she been and where she'd ended up. She wanted to remember, and she wanted to forget. But more than anything, she wanted to keep going. She wanted to live.

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Apr18

Cooper Young Porchfest

863 S. Barksdale, Memphis, TN 38104

Cooper-Young Porchfest is an all day event hosting live music on porches all over the neighborhood! Bring a chair or blanket, food/drinks, and sunscreen. This is a free event, but don't forget to donate to the artists you love (hosts will have Venmo/Cashapp handles posted). RAIN DATE: Sunday, April 19

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Oct25

6:30pm gathering; 7pm music by The Floral Ensemble followed by 90s cover band, Be Kind Rewind. Bring your own chair or blanket. Charcuterie snacks available for purchase by The Joyful Spread. Donations for the artist are welcomed!

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Oct11

V&E Greenline Artwalk

1625 Tutwiler Ave., Memphis, TN 38112

Delighted to join the annual V&E Greenline Artwalk. Find me from Noon-1pm. MORE INFO ON THE ARTWALK HERE >> https://www.vegreenline.org/artwalk

From the website: Join us for the 13th Annual V&E Greenline Artwalk on Saturday, October 11, 2025, at the Kirby Stationhouse grounds (Tutwiler & Avalon). This free, family-friendly event features over 50 local artists & makers, live music, food, drinks, kids' activities, and more.

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Street parking & dogs on leash are welcome!

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Jun20

A night of stories and songs with 3 songwriters in-the-round: Abbye West Pates, Brian Blake and Daniel Neihoff. The three of us have crossed paths many times over the years: at songwriting competitions, conferences, and sharing random stages. We're glad to be together at South Main Sounds!

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May20

Writers in the Round

Lamplighter Lounge, 1702 Madison Ave, Memphis, TN 38104

Writers in the round with Abbye West Pates, Toby Vest (of High/Low Recording), and Nick Flora (Little Rock, AR). $7 cover. This is a lovely night of songwriters sharing their original music in-the-round. I'm honored to be returning for my third time to play this series!

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Nov16

PATES FEST: An Evening of Music in Memory of Jeff Pates

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Crosstown Brewing, 1264 Concourse Ave., Memphis, TN 38104

Join us for an evening of music by friends of Jeff, drink a beer, order food at the newly opened kitchen at Crosstown Brewing, and donate if you wish to support Music Export Memphis (who are doing amazing work supporting Memphis musicians)! LINE-UP: Brian Sherwood, The Hard Promises, The Floral Ensemble, Abbye West Pates, and Be Kind Rewind.

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HOUSE SHOW: Common Man with Abbye West Pates

Memphis, TN

A cozy evening of songs and stories with indie-pop duo Common Man! I'll be supporting this show as the opener. FREE SHOW with a suggested donation upon arrival. RSVP using the 'GET TICKETS' button below to get the address. I love house shows, and I'd love to see you there!

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Jun8

Abbye West Pates & Her Friends (Hannah Kaminer and Brian Blake)

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Crosstown Brewing, 1264 Concourse Ave, Memphis, TN 38104

A laidback evening of original songs and favorite cover songs from Abbye West Pates, Hannah Kaminer (Asheville, NC) and Brian Blake. Grab your favorite brew (they also brew their own root beer!) on this Thursday evening ad you ease your way into the weekend.

More about Hannah: hannahkaminer.com More about Brian: brianblake.net

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4 artists, 1 night of songwriters playing in -the-round. Join me for my first time in this weekly songwriter series AND my first time to play at the Lamplighter Lounge! $7 at the door. > > > https://www.instagram.com/writersintheroundmem

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House Concert

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Memphis, TN

Join me for my favorite way to share music: a house concert! Martha and Colin are hosting me in their Memphis backyard. Kid-friendly yet still a listening environment (there will be an area where parents and small kids can be further away from the stage but still see and hear!) Light dinner at 6pm; music at 6:30pm. Bring a chair or blanket.

Would you like to attend? This is a private, pay-what-you-can event, and you are invited to email me at abbye[at]abbyewestpates[dot]com to request the address and to attend!

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Jul15

South Main Sounds Songwriter Night

South Main Sounds, 550 S. Main St., Memphis, TN 38103

South Main Sounds seeks to hosts artists with stories to tell and songs to sing, cultivating a true listening space (with no sporting events on in the background!) SMS songwriter nights feature 2-3 songwriters sharing nothing but original music, so if you enjoy songwriters and their stories, then this is the place for you. Abbye will share the stage with Katie Shelton and swap songs. Mark your calendars!

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Jun24

Overton Square Music Series

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Chimes Square, 2101 Madison Ave., Memphis, TN 38104

FULL BAND SHOW! Join Abbye and the band for this family-friendly night of free music held in Chimes Square. The stage is located in the courtyard between the Memphis Pizza Cafe and Belly Acres patios! Bring your own chair, pick up some to go food from one of the many yummy restaurants in Overton Square and settle in for a night of original songs plus several familiar songs you can sing along to.

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